Fuck you, California.
Fuck the 5.3 million of you and counting who, when it came time to vote, found a way to rationalize bigotry. You have no excuses. Discrimination is simply that, and you cannot say, “I believe in equality, but” as I have heard in more interviews than I can now count. You did not protect marriage or children from anything but the idea that people are only that, people, whether or not you personally approve of their romantic choices.
Fuck all of you at the Yes on 8 campaign, which was run on nothing but lies and thinly veiled (when dressed up at all) intolerance. Fuck the lies that gay marriage would be taught in schools, that churches would lose rights and privileges, and that our new President-elect was on your side. Fuck the threats, blackmail, and DDOS attacks on the No on 8 campaign servers. I hope it eats away at what’s left of your bilious insides for the rest of your lives that you had to resort to tactics like these in lieu of a single defensible argument for your position.
Fuck the Mormon Church of the LDS, and any other organization in or out or our state which pushed its members to give their money and their time to telling non-heterosexual Californians that you still don’t count, not really, not until you deign to live a lie like we teach our sick deviants to do. There’s no such thing as separate but equal, after all, and in this case there isn’t even the illusion.
Fuck the Yes on 8 supporters who screamed homophobic and misogynistic slurs and insults at people, some of them friends of mine, who dared to disagree with you or even just look like they might. Fuck those of you who tried to intimidate No on 8 campaigners, who tore down No yard signs, who bought up ads that would display on web sites that wanted no part of your cause but wouldn’t know what was happening until it was too late. Fuck those of you who did none of these things too, but instead managed to keep you personal bigotry hidden beneath an absurd and unsupportable sham of rationalizations and lies the whole time.
Fuck any one of you who didn’t get out to vote this down yesterday because the presidential race was already decided.
Fuck any one of you who did vote against this measure, but who kept your mouths shut when the topic came up at work, at school, or at home, so that you could continue to get along well with the bigots you know. That can be hard, and believe me I’ve been there, but there are consequences to only letting one side gets its say in any arena.
Fuck you, California, for dragging your heels into the twenty-first century. There will be further legal challenges, and possibly further referendums, and in time I know our side will win, but for today our state has voted not to respect a huge portion of itself, and so I say for this huge vote of confidence for hatred our state deserves no respect.
Finally, thank you to everyone who helped out with the campaign to keep same-sex marriage from being banned in our constitution. Take heart that we were almost there, and that they had to pull out every nasty play in the book to get this thing passed. We will win next time if we remember how close we came, and not just how disappointed we feel today.
UPDATE: There is already one reason to be hopeful. If you feel as strongly as I do, please join me in donating to the ALCU today and make sure to let them know why, and to thank them for acting quickly in defense of civil rights.
UPDATE 2: According to the No on 8 campaign, “…possibly as many as 4 million absentee and provisional ballots are yet to be counted.” That sounds like a high estimate, but even 1 million could be more than enough to turn the tide. It doesn’t look good right now, but we simply won’t know for sure until Secretary of State Debra Bowen gives us the final count.